Dealing With The Confusion Of An Unexpected Divorce
March 21, 2019, In Divorce
For every married couple who can identify when divorce is on the horizon there is another unsuspecting spouse in a separate relationship who is completely blindsided by their wife or husband stating that the time has come to dissolve their marriage.
At WHITMARSH FAMILY LAW, our divorce attorney in Los Angeles, California has represented both men and women who have been on the confusing and hurtful side of an unexpected divorce, and know exactly how heartbreaking the legal process can be when the last thing on their mind was ending their marriage.
Dealing with an unexpected divorce is much like grieving from a loss. The emotional stages will run their course from denial to anger and guilt to depression, all relying on your ability to understand what is happening before you can move forward with acceptance and hope. Here are a few tips that may help.
Lean On Your Support Group
Your circumstances are unique. You are not married to the same person as your best friend, and s/he is not you. Your divorce may share similar aspects, but they are not the same. Take that into consideration when you are discussing your circumstances with anyone else.
Ask for support and gain comfort from friends or family when you need it. In the beginning, you are going to need someone to lean on but be careful, as advice will start pouring in from every positive and negative direction available. Look to trusted resources who are there to help, not hinder or upset your emotional state.
Do Not Lean On Social Media For Sympathy
Social media is playing a larger part in divorce proceedings and child custody cases throughout California. And a single errant or angry post can damage your credibility once the case proceeds through court.
Do not share your personal, emotional, or upsetting position on social media. It may come back to harm you later. If you are used to posting regularly on any of your social media platforms, consider suspending your accounts until the divorce is finalized.
Protect Yourself And Your Interests
Hire an attorney and immediately get to work on how to protect your interests, finances, and any children you have in the home.
There are many components to our everyday lives, and the moving parts are often hard to keep up with on a daily basis, let alone in the whirlwind of emotional distress. Our Los Angeles divorce lawyer will provide you with a straightforward approach to collecting documents and information that is necessary to protect your rights and interests during a divorce — even when you still awaiting the official filing.
Financial necessities like Spousal support and child support in Los Angeles are an integral part of most Los Angeles County divorces, and when they apply to your circumstances, you will need an experienced attorney to help create solutions for life after divorce.
Part of hiring our divorce lawyer in Los Angeles, CA at WHITMARSH FAMILY LAW, PC, is that our family law firm works tirelessly to provide you with the confidence you need to move forward. Positivity will come in the form of having your finances and best interests at the forefront of the divorce proceedings, so you are not blindsided by someone you trusted again going forward.
There is no way to know exactly how long your spouse has been considering a divorce, and sometimes the answer to “why” is not going to provide the resounding answer you expect (or deserve). Since California is a no-fault divorce state, your spouse does not have to provide a detailed reason to legally file for divorce other than “irreconcilable differences” and you do not have to wait for the papers to arrive to start making plans for your future.
At WHITMARSH FAMILY LAW PC, we are our clients with the legal tools and resources they need to create solutions for their new life, and we can do the same for you and your family. Contact our family law attorney in Los Angeles, California at (310) 552-3505 today to discuss your unique circumstances and learn how we can help you through this difficult time during a free consultation.