November 21, 2018, In Family Law
Five Common Reasons Couples Seek Divorce in California
California enacted America’s first purely no-fault divorce law in 1969, which states that the one spouse can file for divorce without proving that the other spouse is at fault for the breakdown of the marriage. Simply put, the reason behind the divorce does not have to be described as anything more than irreconcilable differences.
At WHITMARSH FAMILY LAW, our Los Angeles divorce attorney has represented both the spouse filing for divorce, and the spouse served with divorce papers, for more than a decade, and while the underlying reason for the divorce does not have to be listed, there five common reasons why couples seek divorce in California.
It will come as no surprise that when one spouse, or even both spouses, seek sexual relationships outside of the marriage, the trust they once shared is broken, and usually incurable. While some couples can work through the marital issues that led to infidelity, most are resigned to ending the nuptials altogether when an affair comes to light.
Money plays a large role in marriage, as it surrounds every movement in the couple’s lives. Mortgages, monthly expenses, casual spending or overspending, and simply not seeing eye to eye on where the money should be spent – and how – can lead to ongoing arguments and resentment. Financial arguments can also stem from one person in the marriage making more money than the other, and the power struggle that ensues because of the fiscal imbalance.
Lack of Emotional Support
It seems obvious that when one spouse is having a tough time and suffers a setback in any personal or professional capacity s/he is going to need their spouse’s emotional support. While that is true, the more common issue is that one spouse is not celebrating the good times with the other at a level in which s/he appreciates. Big promotions or exciting personal triumphs deserve a celebratory partner, and if that partner is not the other spouse, there is cause for concern.
Lack of Communication
Lack of communication is a serious issue in some marriages, and not in the literal sense. While couples talk about their day-to-day lives, they are often not effectively communicating their marital needs. It is important for both spouses to understand what the other person wants out of the marriage, and how they are going to get there together. When communication turns to arguments, contempt, and unhealthy statements to prove a point, the marriage could be in trouble.
Lack of Intimacy
The lack of intimacy in a marriage is about more than just sex – or the lack thereof. It is the absence of emotional intimacy, too. When spouses begin living like roommates, instead of a committed, loving couple who enjoys each other’s time and care, one or both spouses can feel unappreciated, undervalued, and abandoned.
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If you would like to know more about divorce in California, and what it means to you personally and financially should you proceed with dissolving your marriage, contact our Los Angeles family law attorney at WHITMARSH FAMILY LAW today by calling (310) 552-3505 to schedule a free consultation.